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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThings are not going well for my mom.
Things have taken a turn for the worse. She is having trouble breathing on her own and oxygen is not good and heart rate is high. She’s very confused and doesn’t realize what is going on around her. They moved her to the hospital for further evaluation. But it’s not looking good.
Please keep her in your thoughts.

Nanuke
(752 posts)alwaysinasnit
(5,431 posts)
SheltieLover
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onethatcares
(16,856 posts)Peace
MustLoveBeagles
(13,378 posts)Sending healing vibes.
Doodley
(11,058 posts)malaise
(285,443 posts)and a Happy Mothers’ Day greeting
mercuryblues
(15,666 posts)Keep your strength up to help your Mom through this.
Beacool
(30,396 posts)I hope that your mom recovers.
highplainsdem
(56,716 posts)EndlessWire
(7,876 posts)It's better that she is in the hospital being attended, if she passes. At some point, they will come to you and ask to make her a DNR. Then you'll know more what they think. You don't have to let her go without a fight. Do what you need to do for her, for you. I think that the system is prejudiced against older folks. Make them do their jobs, but be calm. Be gentle.
Don't be surprised if you step out to restore yourself, only to find that she passed during this time. Take care of yourself, and if this happens, don't beat yourself up. Who knows, you might get lucky and be able to bring her home. Don't send her to a nursing home. If you make her a DNR, get a copy and put it on your refrigerator. You'll need that.
Taking care of an invalid at home is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Rally your resources. Meanwhile, we are sending prayers to you and her in the hopes that this isn't her time.
Take care.
Meowmee
(9,212 posts)Sending hugs etc.
arthritisR_US
(7,776 posts)gademocrat7
(11,523 posts)and prayers. Take care.
diehardblue
(11,108 posts)marked50
(1,503 posts)Karadeniz
(24,512 posts)fabulous sister and silaw, but her time had run out. Thank goodness the lack of oxygen kept her knocked out so she wasn't so aware of struggling to breathe. You get to the point where you are just glad for a lack of discomfort or suffering. My husband reached the same point with his first wife. Death can be a desired release. Still, it's so difficult to lose a parent....