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imanamerican63

(15,031 posts)
Sun May 11, 2025, 04:39 PM 21 hrs ago

I'm not sure what or how to feel, but mom was given her last rites.

It is tough, but several of our family are with her now. She is struggling, but it close to the end.

Thank you for all your support and prayers.

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I'm not sure what or how to feel, but mom was given her last rites. (Original Post) imanamerican63 21 hrs ago OP
🫶🏽 blm 21 hrs ago #1
💙 sheshe2 21 hrs ago #2
So sorry... 2naSalit 21 hrs ago #3
🕯️ alittlelark 21 hrs ago #4
Such a sad time. I hope that you will soon find peace. brer cat 21 hrs ago #5
I hope it could be a Mother's Day tribute or a beautiful way to say thank you for being your mom 💐 Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #6
So sorry Picaro 20 hrs ago #7
So sorry. bluestarone 20 hrs ago #8
Peace be with you, your Mom and your Family. Fla Dem 20 hrs ago #9
I'm sorry. JoeOtterbein 20 hrs ago #10
I'm so sorry mountain grammy 20 hrs ago #11
You have a community here who love you. Please lean on us if you need to. Nevilledog 20 hrs ago #12
I remember the feeling. ReRe 20 hrs ago #13
So sorry.... spanone 20 hrs ago #14
It is an unforgettably difficult time for you and for your family PCIntern 20 hrs ago #15
A particularly hard day to face such pain malaise 20 hrs ago #16
🫂 mwmisses4289 19 hrs ago #17
So very sorry. traveler50 19 hrs ago #18
I'm sorry... Bluethroughu 19 hrs ago #19
🙏 surfered 19 hrs ago #20
My condolences to you and your family. 58Sunliner 19 hrs ago #21
My heart goes out to all of you wendyb-NC 19 hrs ago #22
Sorry. Greybnk48 19 hrs ago #23
I'm sorry 🙏🏽 live love laugh 19 hrs ago #24
I am so so very sorry for your great loss. irisblue 19 hrs ago #25
So sorry she isn't doing well. SheltieLover 19 hrs ago #26
I'm sorry this is happening--may she have a peaceful and pain-free journey. Wingus Dingus 19 hrs ago #27
Peace be with you. mobeau69 19 hrs ago #28
She'll pass gently with family members surrounding her. calimary 19 hrs ago #29
Thank you for your support. imanamerican63 18 hrs ago #37
Give your Mom much love and attention today especially ❤️ Clouds Passing 19 hrs ago #30
I really hope I'm saying something too obvious imanamerican, JMCKUSICK 19 hrs ago #31
May she cross gently into the welcoming arms of The Universe. LoisB 19 hrs ago #32
Sending hugs. MLAA 18 hrs ago #33
Peace and consolation be with you and your family. Holding you in my heart. n/t TygrBright 18 hrs ago #34
So hard, I'm sorry Tesha 18 hrs ago #35
Love and prayers for all of you. highplainsdem 18 hrs ago #36
My deepest condolences to you and your family virgdem 18 hrs ago #38
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. It's excruciating and raw Maru Kitteh 18 hrs ago #39
I had to give them for my mom. Xolodno 18 hrs ago #40
Just feel IbogaProject 18 hrs ago #41
I'm so sorry Wicked Blue 18 hrs ago #42
I'm sorry cate94 17 hrs ago #43
It's tough. I hope you are able to be there at the end. 70sEraVet 17 hrs ago #44
All but one sister isn't here yet, but she will be here in couple of hours. imanamerican63 16 hrs ago #45
I'm so sorry. Peace to you all. AllyCat 16 hrs ago #46
Hard To Lose A Loved One FrankTC 16 hrs ago #47
Bless you and your Mom 63.... democratsruletheday 16 hrs ago #48
My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope 16 hrs ago #49
So sorry. boonecreek 15 hrs ago #50
It's hard. prayed for you and her. Joinfortmill 15 hrs ago #51
So sorry Meowmee 15 hrs ago #52
❤️ littlemissmartypants 14 hrs ago #53
I'm sorry Bettie 14 hrs ago #54
I'm so sorry. area51 14 hrs ago #55
Your Mom feels your love, and will take it with her.... Bayard 13 hrs ago #56
May she cross easy. nolabear 13 hrs ago #57
Sincere Condolences gademocrat7 7 hrs ago #58
Of course you don't know how to feel. It is something so different how could you. twodogsbarking 5 hrs ago #59
So sad that your mother is dying. YOU surely comfort her. raging moderate 5 hrs ago #60
Peace Magoo48 4 hrs ago #61

Deuxcents

(22,121 posts)
6. I hope it could be a Mother's Day tribute or a beautiful way to say thank you for being your mom 💐
Sun May 11, 2025, 05:30 PM
20 hrs ago

PCIntern

(27,325 posts)
15. It is an unforgettably difficult time for you and for your family
Sun May 11, 2025, 06:13 PM
20 hrs ago

And I wish you all the best in this “journey“…

calimary

(86,209 posts)
29. She'll pass gently with family members surrounding her.
Sun May 11, 2025, 07:03 PM
19 hrs ago

Your thoughts of love and concern will help and comfort her and ease her way if her departure is near.

And who knows? I’ve known elders who received last rites, and then survived for an unexpected extra amount of time.

If and when it happens, imanamerican63, just know we’re here and thinking of you AND her and the rest of your family. It means you may have an extra Guardian Angel getting ready for new wings. Please do keep us posted - if possible.

imanamerican63

(15,031 posts)
37. Thank you for your support.
Sun May 11, 2025, 07:33 PM
18 hrs ago

Doctors are keeping her comfortable, but not much else is going to change. They say that her health just deteriorated to quickly.

JMCKUSICK

(2,219 posts)
31. I really hope I'm saying something too obvious imanamerican,
Sun May 11, 2025, 07:07 PM
19 hrs ago

but please remember that for all the prayers and energies being sent your way, If you're not there yet, please trust that those same prayers and energies can go from you to your mom as well. So as you drive to her, please talk to her, pray for her/with her and help her on her journey "Home".
I pray that these events bring your family close together to support one another through this difficult time.
Love, John

highplainsdem

(55,882 posts)
36. Love and prayers for all of you.
Sun May 11, 2025, 07:32 PM
18 hrs ago

I had to say goodbye to my mom five years ago, and between Mother's Day and it being close to her birthday, I've been thinking about her a lot today.

In her last days, we saw her at times reaching out to people we couldn't see. I don't think she was hallucinating. We cross over to love and reunions, and those who are about to cross can often see the loved ones waiting for them. We found comfort in that.

Last rites can be very comforting, too, for believers in that faith. And as was mentioned in a reply above, it isn't unusual for people to recover after being given last rites. The aunt I lost last summer had first been given last rites years earlier.

Prayers for comfort and strength for you and all your family as your mom crosses to love, peace, and reunions, home in heaven.

Maru Kitteh

(30,157 posts)
39. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. It's excruciating and raw
Sun May 11, 2025, 07:53 PM
18 hrs ago

and feels positively unbearable. It helped me to try to limit my focus to small blocks of time. Just making it through this hour, this evening, this one task. Little bits at a time until I could do more.

Our thoughts are with you.

Xolodno

(6,988 posts)
40. I had to give them for my mom.
Sun May 11, 2025, 07:56 PM
18 hrs ago

That was a couple of years ago, she has tenacity to cheat death for some reason. It's rough, plain and simple. Friend of mine had to give them to a relative of his, ours are different than most religions, its very emotional, said it was the hardest thing he ever had to do. Most of the time a minister in our faith is available, but not always, they are volunteer, don't get paid for it and have regular jobs.

Plus side, when they can show up, they usually wander around the hospital and ask people if they want to be prayed for, which they usually appreciate, even though its in Russian.

I've lost a number of relatives and it sucks every time. Don't be afraid to get counseling afterwards, religious or professionally. It's never easy.

70sEraVet

(4,501 posts)
44. It's tough. I hope you are able to be there at the end.
Sun May 11, 2025, 09:09 PM
17 hrs ago

I was able to be there at the end for my mother, and to take care of the burial arrangements. I hadn't always been a good son, but i felt good about that.
Sorry for what you are going through.

FrankTC

(246 posts)
47. Hard To Lose A Loved One
Sun May 11, 2025, 09:49 PM
16 hrs ago

This human life is tough. We’re wired to love others, but we inevitably eventually experience the pain of loss. Yet the solace of other connections can help. I hope you are able to turn to friends and family for comfort and support.

democratsruletheday

(1,298 posts)
48. Bless you and your Mom 63....
Sun May 11, 2025, 09:52 PM
16 hrs ago

as well as your family. I lost my Mom on 1/19/25 and this was my first mother's day without her. I felt gutted all day.

Bettie

(18,239 posts)
54. I'm sorry
Sun May 11, 2025, 11:42 PM
14 hrs ago

I hope she passes peacefully.

Try to sleep or at least get some rest. You'll need it.

Bayard

(24,970 posts)
56. Your Mom feels your love, and will take it with her....
Mon May 12, 2025, 12:32 AM
13 hrs ago

Condolences to you and your family.

gademocrat7

(11,453 posts)
58. Sincere Condolences
Mon May 12, 2025, 07:04 AM
7 hrs ago

to you and your family on the loss of your beloved mother. We are here with you.

twodogsbarking

(13,594 posts)
59. Of course you don't know how to feel. It is something so different how could you.
Mon May 12, 2025, 08:39 AM
5 hrs ago

Hang in and hang on to those closest. Honor those who have passed by being a better person yourself. Kindness is all we have.

raging moderate

(4,570 posts)
60. So sad that your mother is dying. YOU surely comfort her.
Mon May 12, 2025, 08:47 AM
5 hrs ago

The great love you and your family are showing for your mother must surely mean a great deal to her in this difficult time. And you helped her get her last rites. That must mean a lot to her, too. May she have a peaceful passing into eternal love.

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