Ulysses, another long-time DUer gone

[Lydia Leftcoast]

I'm not on DU very often these days, but I checked the In Memoriam section and noted that one passing had not been listed.

Those of you who have been on this site for several years will remember John Carle, who posted under the name of Ulysses. Aside from astute political comments, he shared with us the story of adopting his son.

He was one of the DUers who became a Facebook friend, and I learned about his experiences as a dedicated teacher, including starting an after-school club aimed at getting boys to enjoy reading, and becoming a stepfather to his second wife Jennifer's children. However, this past fall, I began seeing posts about him having cancer. Then he passed away in November.

Jennifer posted the following in April 2026:

"It has been five months since John died and somehow i am still on my feet, still moving forward. Chris [John's son] came over today, we finished his FAFSA and I got to mother-hen him a bit. I filled his car up with gas and bought him frozen custard.
Time is so weird. Sometimes it seems like only yesterday that John and I were enjoying the mundane tasks of life,hand-in-hand. And sometimes our entire relationship seems like it existed in a dream from long ago. Time will tell, time heals all wounds, time is money, it's all in the timing. Time is the one precious commodity that we can never get back. And I will always cherish the time I had with him.
I will tell all of you this: don't waste time, don't lose one single moment, because you never know when your time will be up. Pursue that dream, take that leap of faith, and hold on to the people you love for all the time you can."

I'm sure that all long-time DUers will join in expressing their condolences to Ulysses' family and friends.

[underpants]

1. 🕯️

[SheltieLover]

2. ...

[greatauntoftriplets]

3. My deepest condolences.

[chouchou]

4. Tears in my eyes and not an onion within miles...

[mwmisses4289]

5. 🫂

[malaise]

6. Deepest sympathy to all his family and friends

Thanks for posting this.

[proud patriot]

7. I miss him

[sdfernando]

8. So sorry to hear about Ulysses.

Rest in Peace good man!

Peace Love and Strength to all of his family and freinds.

[StarryNite]

9. I am so very sorry.

[LoisB]

10. I am so sorry to hear this. My condolences to his family and friends.

[Moostache]

11. My condolences to the family and our community...

I hate being at the age that time is taking things I am comfortable with or have had as part of my life for a while away with alarming increases in frequency.

May his memory live on the hearts and minds he touched.

[George McGovern]

12. Sincerest sympathies to Ulysses' family. Thank You Lydia Leftcoast for posting.

Commiserations to all of us at DU who have lost an online friend from our caring community.
We carry on in their names.

[mountain grammy]

13. So sorry to see this.

[Niagara]

14. My condolences on another DU loss

[2naSalit]

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[stage left]

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[calimary]

17. He sure left a wise legacy - of which you remind us:

“… don’t waste time, don't lose one single moment, because you never know when your time will be up. Pursue that dream, take that leap of faith, and hold on to the people you love for all the time you can."
- John Carle, aka Ulysses

VERY good to remember! A blessing for sure. Thank you, Lydia Leftcoast, for letting us know.

[H2O Man]

18. I am sorry for your loss.

There really aren't words. I hope that Jennifer & children will know how much we liked and respected John.

[hlthe2b]

19. That really struck me to the core--both Ulysses' passing and the poignant message of his wife

It feels wrenching to realize he's been gone this many months but there are so many here who fondly remember him. RIP, John. You will be missed.

[chowder66]

20. My heartfelt condolences to all of those who loved him and called him friend.

[Laurelin]

21. Thank you, Lydia, for sharing

I remember Ulysses
I'm so sorry to hear of his passing. He was a valued community member.

[orangecrush]

22. The circle is broken

[Chicagogrl1]

23. May Ulysses RIP

Good reminder to try to live every moment as best as possible, and to let those that you know that are close to you that you love them.

[Kali]

24. last post ironically in a haven't-seen-these-DUers-in-a-while thread, 2014

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4956018

[Solly Mack]

25. I was thinking about him the other day. Some comment I read, and I knew exactly what Ulysses would have said.

I enjoyed reading his comments and conversing with him. I have long missed seeing him around and now I'll mourn him.

I'll also celebrate him because he was one good egg.

RIP Ulysses.

[Lithos]

26. Oh man...

Ulysses was one of the greats. Very sharp in his comments.

[FemDemERA]

27. Thank you for posting.

RIP

[Dixiegrrrl]

28. If you could forward your post to Admin.with a request Ulysses be added to In Memoriam page

it would be helpful.

[patphil]

29. That's quite a profound post.

I see. That leap of faith can only be taken in the moment that is the now. Then that moment slips into the past.
All change occurs in the current moment.
Take that leap with love in your heart, and no regrets.

[UpInArms]

30. Rest well, John

[IbogaProject]

31. So Sorry

It looks like I found his obituary relevant as they have a scholarship drive in lieu of flowers. https://www.mmsfuneralhomes.com/obituaries/john-christian-carle

He will also be mourned by the countless young people who he helped and mentored over the years. May his memory be a blessing for all of his family, friends, and colleagues.

In Lieu of flowers the family has asked for donation to be made to the RSU Foundation. Please make checks payable to RSU Foundation with John Carle Memorial Scholarship in the memo line or online donations may be made at www.rsu.edu/give.

RSU Foundation
1701 W. Will Rogers Blvd.
Claremore, OK 74017