only took 2 mins for my 29 y/o to break my heart again today... [View all]
Called my parents to see how they were since we missed our evening check-in last night...
Dad said My oldest son and his wife & kids are visiting... asked if I wanted to talk to mom.
I burst into tears and said no...just give him a hug and tell him I miss him.
Haven't seen his 5 y/o since she was 8 mos old, only got to babysit 3 times before they took her away. With a lot of BS accusations that were not true, just making up shit to snub me again.
Trev and his wife have been together since his graduation. I kicked them out shortly after he was 18 for shacking up in my house (literally ONLY comeing out of bedroom to get food) and he threatened me and that was it. I have 2 younger kids, ten years younger... they are now 19 & 17 and they know how much he's hurt me...
Im glad they decided to re-engage with the grandparents, my mom deserves to know her great-grandchildren.
But it stings. I havent had a happy bday or mother's day or happy holidays from them in 5 years...
Trevor and his wife always said to me "you need to apologize" and I have, many times...i dont know what for. I gave up my young life for that kid....had him at 21 and struggled to give him a happy life. He somehow still blames me for the second husband being a POS abuser...when I was the one getting the abuse. (as far as I know, he wont talk about it...he won't do any therapy)
ugh, I just needed to vent ...and cry... I hope my Dad actually says something to them about being assholes to me and even his younger siblings. My daughter has said...if wants to pretend he doesnt have a sister, fuck him then, I dont have an older brother either...
I dont know how someone raised with SO much love all around him could decide to be so cold. 
though I *do* think the wifey has a lot to do with it...he's chosen HER family instead...)
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