Ladies - anyone else have a problem with an elder brother who is cruel to you?

[Peregrine Took]

8. My husband tells me that all the time - stand up to him.

He didn't talk to me for 20 years until a few years ago.
'Woudn't even say hello on the street.
He lived alone in the same studio apartment for 30+ years - the latter time totally in the dark.
He sat in the kitchen and ate his frozen meals on a little stool. The place was filthy even though it was in a ritzy neighborhood.
He is a millionaire but not quiet a hoarder - almost. He has a Master's degree and had a high level professional job.

Anyway, I know if I ever do tell him off, i.e.. how hurt i am that will be the end of us. At least now the door is still open a little bit.

He is mentally ill I know- but, other than being super thin if you met him you might not even realize how odd he is. Can be quite charming and amusing to strangers but horrid to me.