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FirstLight

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11. yes

Mon Nov 8, 2021, 08:53 PM

Nov 2021

at this point it might be best to just hold off on the Trust...

I found a fillable Limited POA form and filled it out so I could do the 3 things that need handling... (we have a notary already on hand that knows us)

The three things: arrange/negotiate for home insurance on the cabin, handle repairs and maintenance, rental agreement for the cabin (my daughter lives there now and needs a REAL rent agreement, not just dad's verbal ok. SHe cant even put the utilities in her name ...
And the cleanup and sale of the damaged property.

The rest, we will set up bill-pay and he will have the final say and payment for the home insurance and the payment of the sale will go to him as well.

I intend on doing some big maintenance on the old cabin since he built it in 1960 and it's got a lot of plumbing issues...I cant tell him all about this mess so I am going to pay for it out of pocket and keep it in good shape for him and the future family.

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Ohhh boy, here we go...gotta have the TALK with the Folks [View all] FirstLight Nov 2021 OP

Speak with an attorney and see if the trust can be amended to appoint an independent trustee. guillaumeb Nov 2021 #1

dad doesnt trust anyone... FirstLight Nov 2021 #8

Understood. guillaumeb Nov 2021 #10

You really should get your dad's unlimited power of attorney so you *can* pay his bills Ocelot II Nov 2021 #2

one step at a time...I dont WANT him thinking I wanna take over. and at least FirstLight Nov 2021 #9

My daughter is a co-signer on my checking accounts; she is not a co-owner. No Vested Interest Nov 2021 #13

agreed azureblue Nov 2021 #16

Hope it goes well for all 3 of you. blm Nov 2021 #3

I don't know if you will be able to make changes in many of your parent's planning. TexasTowelie Nov 2021 #4

Oh, my goodness leftieNanner Nov 2021 #5

I'm not sure why you want to change the trust. Phoenix61 Nov 2021 #6

Are you a Trustee? nt DURHAM D Nov 2021 #7

yes FirstLight Nov 2021 #11

Consider hiring an elder law attorney. Your county Bar Association can give referrals. 3Hotdogs Nov 2021 #12

My dad served in Korea nt FirstLight Nov 2021 #21

He and your mom are eligible for benefits. Maybe some are available now. 3Hotdogs Nov 2021 #27

Omg. God bless you and wishing you well. Joinfortmill Nov 2021 #14

I wish you were mine . . . AndyS Nov 2021 #15

GET...A...GOOD...ATTORNEY...ASAP ashredux Nov 2021 #17

This message was self-deleted by its author ashredux Nov 2021 #18

I'm no expert but the folks here who are urging you to talk to a lawyer are right. calimary Nov 2021 #19

Support group? Auggie Nov 2021 #20

I wish.... I do have several friends around my age who are also FirstLight Nov 2021 #22

You might want to consider using Informed Delivery LiberalFighter Nov 2021 #23

it's all new to me... and Im not trying to just TAKE OVER FirstLight Nov 2021 #24

Start writing "contemporaneous" notes.... reACTIONary Nov 2021 #25

really good idea! FirstLight Nov 2021 #26

My sister was the one that had to do this for my parents csziggy Nov 2021 #28