Bereavement

Uben

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9. Oh, I'll eventually move on

Fri Feb 10, 2012, 09:57 AM

Feb 2012

I am retired and live in a gated lake community. There are a lot of widows and divorcees here, and a widower almost becomes a target for those looking to find another mate. I may remain here, may not. I'm not making any big decisions for a while (advice from my friends). I have my parents to take care of now. Neither of their health is very good, and I could face losing one of them this year, as well. Life gets tougher as you get older in that respect. My mantra now is "Endeavor to persevere". Do what needs to be done, tackle each problem as it arises.

I have been here at DU for many years and I have used my friends here for solace before. I know first-hand the benefits of being part of such a great community. Together we can make it through lifes struggles. It's not always easy, but what is?

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Wife died Sunday, buried her today [View all] Uben Feb 2012 OP

She does sound amazing. ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #1

Sincerest condolances. Old and In the Way Feb 2012 #2

I am so sorry. juajen Feb 2012 #3

Oh, I'll eventually move on Uben Feb 2012 #9

Sorry for your loss. Hang tough, life is hard, but worth it. Scuba Feb 2012 #4

I'm so sorry BanzaiBonnie Feb 2012 #5

Sending some good energy your way dreamnightwind Feb 2012 #6

Of course, it is natural to worry..... Uben Feb 2012 #8

Thanks for the info dreamnightwind Feb 2012 #23

Sincerest sympathy, Uben... Surya Gayatri Feb 2012 #7

So sorry for your loss Worried senior Feb 2012 #10

dude.... mike_c Feb 2012 #11

My symapthies to you Blappy Feb 2012 #12

So sorry for your loss, Uben. She sounds like she was an amazing woman. Mnemosyne Feb 2012 #13

Sorry for your loss -- admiration for what you had. immoderate Feb 2012 #14

My thoughts are with you. I have lost my husband of 45 years. Paper Roses Feb 2012 #15

One of the greatest gifts she gave me..... Uben Feb 2012 #16

.. auntAgonist Feb 2012 #26

My condolences, Uben Tsiyu Feb 2012 #17

I'm so sorry for your loss, Uben LiberalEsto Feb 2012 #18

My condolences Uben. You sound like you are on track & know what's coming, what to do, it just sucks uppityperson Feb 2012 #19

Hope the road smooths out for you BootinUp Feb 2012 #20

Condolences pmorlan1 Feb 2012 #21

I'm so sad to read this. I hope you and Jack are having a peaceful eve. midnight Feb 2012 #22

My sympathy to you and your family livetohike Feb 2012 #24

Uben I'm so sorry for your loss. auntAgonist Feb 2012 #25

Heartfelt condolences to you Uben. veness Feb 2012 #27

I am so sorry for your loss MadrasT Feb 2012 #28

I'm so very sorry for your loss pipi_k Feb 2012 #29

I'm so very sorry for your loss. *hugs* GreenPartyVoter Feb 2012 #30

My condolences, Uben. I hope you and Jack have been getting out for some walks - TBF Feb 2012 #31

Thanks TBF Uben Feb 2012 #32