Bereavement

Siwsan

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13. Fortunately, my mother never knew about my sister's death

Mon Oct 26, 2020, 11:45 AM

Oct 2020

Mom was in the final stages of Alzheimer's. My sister was, unquestionably, her favorite. I remember her reaction when my older brother died. Had she not already been dying, my sister's death would have likely killed her.

At my brother's insistence, we are carrying on with a lot of the family traditions with my niece (my sister's daughter) and her brothers, when they are in town. That continuity seems to help them, a lot. I'm usually too busy 'making it happen' to do a reading of myself. I never, in my life, imagined I'd end up as the family 'Matriarch'. I call it one of those cosmic practical jokes.

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3+ months after losing Mom, and I'm having more good days than bad... but [View all] MissMillie Oct 2020 OP

I know that feeling so well. We are sisters in grief Walleye Oct 2020 #1

So hard to go through. My moms funeral was a year ago today. She was 91 and led a great life, Tech Oct 2020 #2

Sending hugs, and vibes for healing and peace. niyad Oct 2020 #3

In my experience, you learn to live with some griefs but never actually move past them. Siwsan Oct 2020 #4

thanks for that reminder. the last time i saw my sister, mopinko Oct 2020 #7

I lost my brother to suicide and my sister to cancer Siwsan Oct 2020 #9

it is for all of us, i think. mopinko Oct 2020 #10

Fortunately, my mother never knew about my sister's death Siwsan Oct 2020 #13

it's snowing here now. mopinko Oct 2020 #5

I understand.. luvs2sing Oct 2020 #6

i always say- grief mixed w anger is the worst. mopinko Oct 2020 #11

I expected that to happen. luvs2sing Oct 2020 #12

5 years later I still have bad days and after visitors leave the house feels extra empty. IADEMO2004 Oct 2020 #8