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gab13by13

(28,588 posts)
24. As the Buddhists say, this too will pass.
Wed Feb 9, 2022, 11:47 PM
Feb 2022

It is ok to feel the way you feel, don't beat yourself up thinking about the past and worrying about the future, the past and future aren't real. The only thing that is real is the present moment, there is nothing you can't handle in the present moment.

I used to constantly think about negative things that happened to me in the past many years ago and then I read a book, The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle. His book turned my life around. Now, even little things I turn into positives. I don't wait in line at the grocery store, I enjoy the moment, even let people ahead of me in line, giving is a very good antidote for what ails me. If someone pulls in front of me in traffic I just smile, I am not going to make myself angry over something someone else does. The book is a short book, give it a try.

Finally, 70 today is not old, I am 74 and still play golf and not from the senior tees. I play golf with someone who is 90 years old and he is good, he even beats me quite often.

Don't listen to the thoughts that are in your head, your thoughts aren't who you are, you are the person who listens to your thoughts. It's in the book, give it a try, it was the best cure for my depression.

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I am so sorry for your pain and grief. MLAA Feb 2022 #1
Thank you, MLAA Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #2
It's ok for you to be sad right now, you loved your brother, it's understandable. cayugafalls Feb 2022 #3
You're right. Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #4
It is. Drum Feb 2022 #5
Thanks, Drum Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #6
Virtual Hugs to you. Srkdqltr Feb 2022 #7
You are so right Wicked Blue Feb 2022 #8
A lot on your plate.. Deuxcents Feb 2022 #9
It's normal to feel low for a while. Haggard Celine Feb 2022 #10
Sending hugs & good energy your way. KarenS Feb 2022 #11
Blue, I am so sorry for your loss questionseverything Feb 2022 #12
Of course it's normal to feel exhausted SheltieLover Feb 2022 #13
It might be leighbythesea2 Feb 2022 #14
I am SO SORRY oldtime dfl_er Feb 2022 #15
I'm sorry for your pain and loss ybbor Feb 2022 #16
I'm sorry. JoeOtterbein Feb 2022 #17
I'm so sorry. Chellee Feb 2022 #18
I lost my wife last February 14 of 2021, so I know how you feel.... William Gustafson Feb 2022 #19
So many good responses from your friends here on DU..... Hulk Feb 2022 #20
You answered your own question in the first line. You are mentally and emotionally worn out. LoisB Feb 2022 #21
Sending virtual hugs and vibes for strength and healing and endurance for you niyad Feb 2022 #22
So sorry for your pain cally Feb 2022 #23
As the Buddhists say, this too will pass. gab13by13 Feb 2022 #24
It really hurts losing a sibling.... Dan Feb 2022 #25
I feel you. I haven't been able to work for weeks. CaptainTruth Feb 2022 #26
I so understand that grief induced exhaustion Farmer-Rick Feb 2022 #33
My Sympathies... GB_RN Feb 2022 #27
A death announcement on Facebook is not an invitation to call you. Call your friend. SunSeeker Feb 2022 #28
I agree with SunSeeker. A facebook announcement may not be enough. Many of us don't know how to ratchiweenie Feb 2022 #34
So true! SunSeeker Feb 2022 #36
So sorry you are going through this Tree Lady Feb 2022 #29
Give yourself permission to grieve Bayard Feb 2022 #30
As others have said: you are exhausted by your losses. Take time. Do call Hospice & see if ... Hekate Feb 2022 #31
Grieving is such hard work. BadgerMom Feb 2022 #32
Yes, it's normal. hippywife Feb 2022 #35
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