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cbayer

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14. Being challenged by someone who is truly interested and being bullied are two
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 05:07 PM
Dec 2014

different things.

If you could more easily distinguish between the two, you would probably have a much more enjoyable time.

You are sincere in your beliefs, but you have the false assumption that others respect your sincerity.

You are not anyone's punching bag. If someone seems desperate for your attention, they are probably desperate.

And because you are a kind person, they are always going to be able to ramp it up way more than you would.

Let me ask you this. What do you hope to accomplish by interacting with those that clearly have nothing but disdain for you?

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I am amazed and disturbed by the energy spent by others in challenging personal beliefs. NYC_SKP Dec 2014 #1
Well i understand that some are really passionate and interested in the subject. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #3
You're too kind. NYC_SKP Dec 2014 #7
Thanks for defending me in that thread. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #8
In my experience wryter2000 Dec 2014 #2
I think I need to do that more. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #4
Just like any other kind of hate wryter2000 Dec 2014 #5
I started using ignore. i need to expand it. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #6
It doesn't get challanged by anyone Leontius Dec 2014 #9
I have to admit I don't chose my battles well. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #10
Whe you let them spew their venom it helps keeps it from festering. Leontius Dec 2014 #20
Well thats an interesting way of looking at it. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #21
Depends on how it's done Fortinbras Armstrong Dec 2014 #11
There is a lot of experience wisdom in stepping back from there. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #12
I got burned (and banned) a few times too many. Fortinbras Armstrong Dec 2014 #13
Being challenged by someone who is truly interested and being bullied are two cbayer Dec 2014 #14
The only thing I get out of it is misery. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #15
Ok, justin. "Some here will never change and if I engage them, it will only end badly". cbayer Dec 2014 #17
Yes I think I will add a fourth to ignore. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #18
I did tell you about that one sometime ago if you remember. Leontius Dec 2014 #22
Yes you did and I do get along with several I disagree with there. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #23
It depends on the nature of the challenge el_bryanto Dec 2014 #16
Yes challenging belief is not bad as long as it is done in good faith. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #19
That is the problem with the religion room el_bryanto Dec 2014 #24
kick. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #25
I refuse to get into it. Union Scribe Dec 2014 #26
Well said. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #27
It's hard. It's so tempting Union Scribe Dec 2014 #28
But there are those that really don't see how what they say could be construed as bigotry cbayer Dec 2014 #30
And those who continue trying Union Scribe Dec 2014 #31
I am very circumspect about my discussions about religion IRL. cbayer Dec 2014 #33
You can ignore people without putting them on ignore. okasha Dec 2014 #29
I admit to peaking on one I had on ignore just now and it looks like he is trowing a fit. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #32
There are two or three running tantrums going on. okasha Dec 2014 #34
I am tempted to respond but i doubt I will. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #35
lol i just responded to him. hrmjustin Dec 2014 #36
Point out the flaws in the challenge. rug Dec 2014 #37
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