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LudwigPastorius

(12,476 posts)
Fri Feb 7, 2025, 02:28 AM Feb 2025

My mom said the worst thing she's ever said to me. [View all]

I moved in to take care of her 7 years ago, but the last three have been the hardest. I had to give up my work, which was more than work to me, to be available for her 24/7.

Anyway, she was angry about me expressing that I was beyond burnt out and unhappy, so she said, “Maybe I just should have aborted you!”.

I don’t know if I can continue to do this if it’s going to entail being on the receiving end of verbal abuse like that.

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This message was self-deleted by its author Sector 001 Feb 2025 #1
Pretty damn judgmental NoRethugFriends Feb 2025 #5
Maybe her dx has something to do with the verbal abuse? SheltieLover Feb 2025 #2
Good idea about the meds. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #11
In the meantime, we are here for you SheltieLover Feb 2025 #18
Thanks so much, SheltieLover. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #20
YW! SheltieLover Feb 2025 #23
It's not about you. Remember that. WheelWalker Feb 2025 #3
I didn't take the bait. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #6
Coming up on 7 years for me MotownPgh Feb 2025 #9
Yeah, I didn't engage with her after that. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #12
If she has dementia, then you need to deal with it, or she needs to be in a facility. NoRethugFriends Feb 2025 #4
No cognitive impairment, she's just spiteful at times. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #13
I'm sorry. I know that hurt you.nt Trueblue Texan Feb 2025 #7
Thanks. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #14
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Feb 2025 #8
Thanks XanaDUer2 LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #15
Maybe she is depressed and would do better with some meds to make her happier. applegrove Feb 2025 #10
I know she's having a hard time, but I doubt she... LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #16
That is so hard. applegrove Feb 2025 #17
I'm sorry you had to experience that LP Clouds Passing Feb 2025 #19
Thanks LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #21
That was a very crappy thing for her to say to you, very crappy! Clouds Passing Feb 2025 #22
So sorry you are on the,receiving end Fresh_Start Feb 2025 #24
Yeah, nobody knows which buttons to push like family. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #25
I'm sorry you're going through this Laurelin Feb 2025 #26
Thanks. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #27
Ask her if she would prefer a nursing home... 1monster Feb 2025 #28
You are not alone... Mike Nelson Feb 2025 #29
It sounds like she needs a visit to respite care. Hope22 Feb 2025 #30
Ouch😣 1WorldHope Feb 2025 #31
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