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EndlessWire

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11. I'm praying for you and her.

Reply to imanamerican63 (Original post)

Sun May 11, 2025, 03:21 PM

May 11

It's better that she is in the hospital being attended, if she passes. At some point, they will come to you and ask to make her a DNR. Then you'll know more what they think. You don't have to let her go without a fight. Do what you need to do for her, for you. I think that the system is prejudiced against older folks. Make them do their jobs, but be calm. Be gentle.

Don't be surprised if you step out to restore yourself, only to find that she passed during this time. Take care of yourself, and if this happens, don't beat yourself up. Who knows, you might get lucky and be able to bring her home. Don't send her to a nursing home. If you make her a DNR, get a copy and put it on your refrigerator. You'll need that.

Taking care of an invalid at home is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Rally your resources. Meanwhile, we are sending prayers to you and her in the hopes that this isn't her time.

Take care.

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Things are not going well for my mom. [View all] imanamerican63 May 11 OP

I am sorry to learn of this. I am beaming good vibes out to you. Take care. Nanuke May 11 #1

... alwaysinasnit May 11 #2

Healing vibes on the way to you both SheltieLover May 11 #3

hoping for the best outcome for you both onethatcares May 11 #4

I'm sorry to hear this MustLoveBeagles May 11 #5

I hope it is something she can soon get over. My wife and I just got over pneumonia and bronchitus. Best thoughts. Doodley May 11 #6

Sending hugs malaise May 11 #7

Hugs to you. mercuryblues May 11 #8

I'm so sorry. Beacool May 11 #9

Sending healing vibes for her, and hugs for you. highplainsdem May 11 #10

I'm praying for you and her. EndlessWire May 11 #11

So sorry 😢 Meowmee May 11 #12

I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart is with her and please take care of yourself 💕 arthritisR_US May 11 #13

Sending healing hugs gademocrat7 May 11 #14

I am sending positive vibes and thoughts of strength. diehardblue May 11 #15

Wishing your Mother, you, and the rest of your family the best. marked50 May 11 #16

Weve been through this recently...sister in law lasted two days. She was a Karadeniz May 11 #17

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